Re-Entry into the Dating World: It’s a New Jungle Out There
You have decided to re-enter the world of dating after years of being in a relationship and its aftermath. You decide to give Parship and other online dating sites a try and even find success in finding compatible profiles. You converse for long enough that you feel comfortable meeting him. Those dates seem to go well. Then all of a sudden, he’s deeply involved with someone else or hasn’t made up his mind yet. You feel like a fish out of water with all the new rules that seem to elude you. Do you give up, rant and withdraw altogether?
Feeling bewildered with the new dating atmosphere isn’t unusual. Dating rules change as society changes, and online dating presents its own platform with dynamics that allow multiple-person dating. You have your standards and should stick to them, but be willing to adapt as much as you can.
You may not have known that he’s been dating others as well, but since no commitment has been made, did he actually break any rules? Probably not. Did you ask about his dating outlook? Probably not.
Consider the situation a learning experience and consider communicating with more than one man. Be honest with him, though, and let him know that while it’s not a competition, you want to or are talking with others. He will appreciate the honesty, and it’s up to him to accept or not.
If you are a single-person dater, let him know that, too. If that’s acceptable, you both gain. If it’s not, you don’t waste your time and effort.
